The Mission of the Mother

As-Salāmu ‘Alaykum wa Raḥmatullāhi wa Barakātuh. A‘ūdhu Billāhi Minash-shayṭāni r-rajīm. Bismillāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm. Wa ṣ-Salātu wa s-Salāmu ‘alá Rasūlinā Muḥammadin Sayyidi l-Awwalīna wa l-Akhirīn. Madad yā RasūlAllāh, Madad yā Sādāti Aṣḥābi Rasūlillāh, Madad yā Mashāyikhinā, Dastūr Mawlana Sheikh Abdullāh al-Fā’iz ad-Dāghistāni, Sheikh Muḥammad Nāẓim al-Ḥaqqānī. Madad. Ṭarīqatunā aṣ-Suḥbah wa l-Khayru fi l-Jam‘iyyah.

BismiLlahi r-Rahmani r-Rahim:

(Qur’ān 64:15). Allāh ‘Azza wa-Jalla says, ‘Innamā amwālukum wa awlādukum fitnah’, ‘Your wealth and your children are but a trial.’ He ﷻ says, “Your wealth and children are your fitnah. Take care of them.” How? The right that children have on their parents is to be given good names and to be raised well. These are the rights children have on their parents.

Since childhood, our Holy Prophet salla Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam says that the first thing you should teach when they make attempt to talk is to say “Allāh”. They should say “Allāh” first. The first thing they will say should be the holy name of Allāh ‘Azza wa Jalla, says our Holy Prophet ﷺ. In order for children to grow for the pleasure of Allāh ﷻ, we must teach the name of Allāh ﷻ first. A child grown up with Allāh ﷻ, with the name of Allāh ﷻ will be a good child and a good person.

Certainly, raising the children well and teaching them good things are important things as well. If you leave them alone without teaching them anything, the first thing they will learn then will be - People are not teaching good things. Just like they don’t teach good things, they will separate from you later. They become alienated and see you as a foreigner.

Therefore, the biggest duty of raising the children belongs to mothers. The duty of motherhood is great. And its reward is as great as well. Our Holy Prophet ṣalla Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam was asked, “Advise me” by a holy ṣaḥābah. So our Holy Prophet ﷺ said, “Your mother.” He asked him ﷺ again and he ﷺ said, “Your mother”. He ﷺ told him to take care and respect his mother around ten times. Because the greatest duty is the duty of a mother.

They say, “Mothers must work. Women must work. They must have freedom. They shouldn't stay at home jobless.” They are not jobless. Them bringing up one good person is better than a thousand of your headships. It is better than a thousand jobs. Bringing up a good person is thousand times better for the country, for the nation and for humanity.

They are accusing housewives in uselessness and say, “You cannot do anything.” People are obliged now. Everyone is working. But the most important thing is to bring up children as good people at home. That is the most important duty. It has the highest value. Even if someone is a president, his benefit and reward is not as much as bringing up a good person.

As we are living in the end of times, they are bringing up children as they like. They make them love what they love. They make them love useless people. They make them love things that are not good. They make them love various things that shayṭān loves. We must pay attention to this.

The whole world now, rich and poor, are complaining about their children. You bring them up, and then they go on various bad ways. They do various things in front of you, and you can't say anything. There is such a situation now. And then they dare praise themselves. How do these people become like this if you are good? They didn't come from other place. These are the people you brought up and taught. May Allah ﷻ protect us.

We live in a tough time. Nevertheless, Mu’mins and Mu’minat must show importance to this. They must show importance and value the discipline at home. The first school is at home. Knowledge starts from home. I think it is the word of our Holy Prophet ṣalla Llāhu ‘alayhi wa-sallam. Allahu ‘A’lam/Allāh ﷻ knows best. Probably not, but there is a saying, “Al-‘ilim mina l-maḥd ila l-laḥd”. Maḥd/cradle, meaning knowledge lasts from infancy until the grave.

And that, as we said, starts at home with a mother. The mother teaches and passes them to good people. They bring up good people then. May Allāh ﷻ protect our children of Ummat Muḥammad ﷺ. May they not be bad ones insha’Allah.

Wa min Allah at-Tawfiq. Al-Fatiha.

Mawlana Sheikh Muhammad Adil ar-Rabbani 18 December 2022/ 24 Jumada al-Awwal 1444 Lefka, Cyprus