Showing Off is Lack of Adab

As-Salāmu ‘Alaykum wa RaḥmatuLlāhi wa Barakātuh. A‘ūdhu BiLlāhi Minash-shayṭāni r-rajīm. BismiLlāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm. Wa ṣ-Salātu wa s-Salāmu ‘alá Rasūlinā Muḥammadin Sayyidi l-Awwalīna wa l-Akhirīn. Madad yā RasūlAllāh, Madad yā Sādāti Aṣḥābi RasūliLlāh, Madad yā Mashāyikhinā, Dastūr Mawlana Sheikh Abdullāh al-Fā’iz ad-Dāghistāni, Sheikh Muḥammad Nāẓim al- Ḥaqqānī. Madad. Ṭarīqatunā aṣ-Suḥbah wa l-Khayru fi l-Jam‘iyyah.

Our Tariqah is upon Adab, Shukr to Allah ﷻ. And Adab is of benefit to humanity. A person who has Adab with Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla, with our Holy Prophet ﷺ first of all and then with people, who lives with Adab in the place where he lives attains the pleasure of Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla and is honored with His ﷻ favors.

People of old times had Adab in everything. In the time we are living now, the more there is lack of Adab, the more it is accepted apparently. But it doesn’t bring any benefit to people. It is nothing but loss. They are showing everything as normal and as if the lack of Adab is a skill. Moreover, people of old times would not show everyone when they ate and drank. But nowadays, they are wondering how to show it more. Whereas if poor and needy people see that, it will have no benefit but will become poison to you. Because there is poison in the envious look of people. Even if it’s not next to you, that poison will reach you. Therefore, people of old times used to beware of showing off.

Showing off is not Adab, it is lack of Adab. It has no benefit at all. It has nothing but harm. It is from the diseases of mankind’s ego to show off, to flatter yourself, to be full of yourself. These are the signs of showing off. Who follows his ego doesn’t get benefit. He is always in loss. The ego must be trained. The ego must have Adab. It must follow you, not you following it.

We say, “People are doing so and so. The fashion is like this now”. The things people do are not always good. Because, as we said, as people are after their egos nowadays, their actions are not good. They are doing bad things most of the time. And they are doing such bad things that these men - They are not even men, there are no men anymore - people have turned things that are embarrassing into a skill and dare punish those who go against them. May Allah ﷻ protect us from their evil. May Allah ﷻ not let us obey our egos. May Allah ﷻ let us live with Adab insha’Allah.

Wa min Allah at-Tawfiq. Al-Fatiha.

Mawlana Sheikh Muhammad Adil ar-Rabbani 08 December 2022/ 14 Jumada al-Awwal 1444 Fajr Prayer, Akbaba Dergah www.hakkani.org