Mothers are Schools

Assalamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh, Auzu Billahi Minashaytanir Rajeem. Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem, Wassalatu Wassalamu ala Rasulina Muhammadin Sayyidul Awwalin wal Akhirin, Madad Ya Rasulallah, Madad Ya Sadat As’habi RasuLillah, Madad Ya Mashayikhina, Dastur Mawlana Sheikh Abdullah Faiz Daghestani, Sheikh Nazim al-Haqqani. Madad. Tariqatunas sohba, wal khayru fil jamiyya.

There are some days when people remember old times. There are some days with bitter memories, and some days with sweet memories. Today is like that. Hajjah Anne’s sister passed away 24 years ago today. And the day after tomorrow is the Urs of Hajjah Anne. That is 17 years now. May Allah ﷻ make their Maqam in paradise. They were special people like those we hear in stories of old times. They did so much physical and spiritual service. They stood by Mawlana Shaykh Nazim, always in servanthood. And they left with everything accomplished in this world.

Mawlana Shaykh Nazim used to go for service and preaching. And she would take care of the household. She never asked for anything she needed. And she had the skill of sewing. Mawlana Shaykh Nazim used to say that girls should learn how to sew and stitch. They can sometimes provide for their families with it if they want. Hajjah Anne did so. She would worship at night and serve during the day to her family and the brothers and sisters. She cooked food, led Dhikr, gave advice and covered the needs of people who came. She lived this life well and passed away well to Akhirah on the 3rd of Shawwal of the Hijri calendar. And we remember today to commemorate her, as her Maqam is high.

Our Holy Prophet ﷺ said that paradise is under mothers’ feet. Our Holy Prophet ﷺ is ‘ ’, ‘The most truthful among the truthful’. Indeed, paradise is under feet of such mothers. To serve them and to honor them is something that Allah ﷻ likes. It is the order of Allah ﷻ. A man had come to our Holy Prophet ﷺ and asked for advice. He told him to obey his mother. And such mother should be a good mother complying with Islam. She should walk on the way of Islam so that they reach paradise.

Mothers of old times used to take care of their children. Now it has come to such a point that even before the children are two years old, they are sent to nurseries. And mothers go around without looking after their children. Mothers are schools. They are schools and Madrasah where they teach knowledge. They should bring up their children well so that they make good generations. Otherwise, generations incapable of anything are brought up. And their first harm will be to their parents. “How did they become like this?” You didn’t educate and train them. And then you grumble, “We are good, but they are bad”. It may be true that you are good. But you have to teach your children what is good and bad, right and wrong. You have to teach them what is halal and haram in the beginning. Not everything is haram. And not everything is halal. You should show halal as halal and haram as haram so that your child is afraid of Allah ﷻ and embarrassed of people. Now there is neither fear of Allah ﷻ, nor embarrassment anymore. There is only satisfaction of the ego. “Our child is weak. Let us feed him”. Feeding doesn’t help. You make it worse by feeding him. You make him wilder. He should eat as much as he likes. What’s important is not to feed but to pay more attention to his upbringing. May Allah ﷻ protect us.

We get upset for the Muslim children, because we can surely say that they are not brought up well anymore. There is no training now. Instead of children serving and showing respect to their parents, parents have become servants to their children. “What do you want? Let us give you”. It is wrong. Training is necessary. If you give them everything, they will have a hard time in the future. Parents will not always be by their sides. Even if they are, people don’t have so much physical and spiritual strength. Therefore, you should train them while they are small. You shouldn’t give everything they want so that they control their egos. And you should tell them what is good and bad. If you don’t say, they will learn as they like and follow the wrong ways. May Allah ﷻ protect all Muslim children insha’Allah. May Allah ﷻ protect them.

This is the biggest problem of the present time, because the generations are getting lost. Afterwards, children come and want to follow the right way. Shukr to Allah ﷻ, some children come. Sometimes it is hard for them but with Duas they should come more to the right way insha’Allah.

Wa min Allah at-Tawfiq. Al-Fatiha.

Mawlana Sheikh Muhammad Adil ar-Rabbani 15 November 2021/10 Rabīʽ al-Thani 1443 Fajr Prayer, Akbaba Dergah